Look, I’m not here to judge you. Unless you load your toilet paper with the flap coming out from underneath, in which case I am. And I am judging you harshly.
I grew up in a house with a Dad who had VERY STRONG political opinions. He also had VERY STRONG feelings about anyone who did not agree with his political opinions, and those feelings were VERY NEGATIVE. I saw how mad other people’s opinions made him, and how it altered his life to the point that he wouldn’t watch certain movies or buy certain products because they were directed by or endorsed by some “left-wing liberal commie,” and I made myself a promise. “That will not be you,” I promised myself. “You will not judge people based on their feelings on a political issue.”
I have remained true to this promise. I have friends all over the political spectrum. As far as I am concerned, I judge them based on their actions – the way they treat me, other people, and animals – and not based on who, in their personal opinion, based on their personal experience, is most qualified to represent them or run this country.This has largely served me very well, although I have at times been at the receiving end of other people’s judgments. And that’s really why I’m writing this.
Saw (and reposted) this meme on Facebook today:
Since the start of this election, I have seen and heard all manner of talk. People talking of deleting their friends who support a candidate they don’t like. People saying nasty, mean-spirited things about each other and about the candidates – and not just regarding their actions, but their looks, their weight, their children. I mean I literally saw a thread on Facebook where one woman referred to another woman’s YOUNG CHILDREN as ugly because the mother was a Trump supporter! How did it come to this? Thankfully I didn’t know either of those women, but I have seen people I know, love, and respect post things that are at best disrespectful and at worst truly poisonous.
This is a tough world. We have chosen each other as friends based on so many experiences, emotions, and of course on intuition. When we’ve weathered this election – and of course whatever the following four years might bring – those words will remain. Whether they’re said about someone specific, about a general group, or even about one of the candidates, any negativity you put out there will remain, and add to this toxicity of these already troubled times.
So speak, and speak with passion and conviction. But also temper that with patience and tolerance – traits so sadly lacking today. And remember…